1. A relation might be too intense if you are feeling overwhelmed by their expression of feelings towards you. This can include feeling like the relationship is going too fast, you may be being pressured or they may be obsessive over you that’s making you feel so overwhelmed and uncomfortable.
2. Possessiveness happens when someone is jealous and tries to control the things that you do and the people that you see. The person ends up lashing out on you with the means to control you.
3. You know you are being manipulated when someone is trying to deliberately convince you to do things that you are not comfortable with and influence your feelings. They will also ignore you until they get their way.
4. An individual tries to isolate you by making you choose between them and your friends and family. It can get to the point where you are dependent on that person because they have convinced you that they are the only one you need.
5. It is unhealthy when someone sabotages you and intentionally keeps you from doing things you need to do such as commitments such as work, sports, school, etc. These actions will likely ruin those opportunities. They may start rumours, talk behind your back, or threaten to expose you in any way.
6. It is unhealthy for a person to belittle you. They may do things and says things that make you feel bad about yourself. It might be played off as a joke but still has effects on your self-esteem.
7. It is unhealthy for someone guilt you over things you have no control over so that you will feel bad for them. This can include threatening to hurt themselves or others if you don’t want to be with them or they may pressure you to do something you don’t want to stating that your hurting them if you do not.
8. Someone is volatile if you feel like you need to walk on eggshells around them to keep the peace. They may overreact to small things, get violent or threaten you.
9. It is unhealthy when someone constantly makes excuses for their behaviour and blames you or others for their actions.
10. It is unhealthy for someone to be disloyal to you and act in a dishonest way. This can include lying, excluding you, being two-faced, or cheating on you.